Your hero is Shilpakaari!
Compulsive and Possessive.
Shilpakaari are a female-dominated species evolved from cephalopods such as the nautilus and squid. As such, the men have retained redundant features such as four arms, six fingers, two spleens, and two phalluses. The women, by comparison, have evolved to control them through pheromones.
Competition and the arts play a major role in their society. While the shilpakaari are unmatched in climbing, swimming, and wrestling, they rarely go to war. Instead, the men fixate on personal competition. They covet what they’ve earned, and obsess over keeping it.
That means you. Your hero may bow to your every whim after he comes clean about his obsessive feelings, but don’t confuse that with submission. With your permission, he’ll restrain you and fill you up until there’s no room for anyone else.